A few days ago a friend posted a question on her facebook status: Why do we need to be wed?
I replied with several scenarios:
Me: To wear a wedding gown.
Her: But I can wear a wedding gown even if I dont have a wedding.
(I forgot to point out that its only called a wedding gown if your getting married otherwise its just called a gown.)
Me: So you can waste money and serve food to people who will malign your gown which is expensive enough. And people oblige you to kiss your husband by the "cling" of their glasses.
Her: Waste of money. Id rather not get married if were just breaking up in the long run.
Me: Everything in this world has an end. Even the truest of all TRUE LOVE will part ways because of death.
Her: Thats why I dont want to get married bcs everyone will part ways as you said!
Me: Hmp! Just think of it this way, its better to click a divorce status rather than single.
(Thread broken!)
I must admit, I was not helpful to someone who probably needed guidance. I am a newlywed and will currently renew vows. What have I done?
I am sorry for not providing an honest opinion. I always goof around and it might have catapulted into changing your mind. I will try to make amends.
According to wikipedia:Marriage is a social union or legal contract between people that creates kinship. It is an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually intimate and sexual, are acknowledged in a variety of ways, depending on the culture or subculture in which it is found. Such a union, often formalized via a wedding ceremony, may also be called matrimony.
After much thought, people get married for a lot of reason. For religious reasons they feel that a blessed matrimony is acceptable by God. The church condemns procreation without the sanctity of marriage. By Law you are entitled to claims if you are married. You can even claim your husband to be "yours" and yours alone.
True, nothing in this world is stable. It is an ever-changing world. Would you rather grow old looking for something that you already had but let it slip through your fingers?
First, let me ask you this: Is he willing to marry you? Because if what's keeping you from marrying him is the fact that you feel he is having second thoughts, then don't marry him. A man (however confused he is!) must not have second thoughts of marrying the right girl. Now if you think that you are not worthy of him, then you're probably not! Never doubt yourself. You are born alone and you will die alone, hence there is 1 person in this world whom you can rely on. YOURSELF!
If he is willing with all his heart to marry you and you are just asking what is marriage for? I know you have been wounded in the past. And past should be where it is supposed to be. The PAST. Leave it. You can never turn back time. Move forward. If you find a man who loves you and wants to marry you think about this: Are you willing to spend a lifetime with this man? Are you willing to embrace his flaws? Are you willing to trust him? Are you willing to start a family with him? Are you willing to love him in his worst as you love him on your best?
Do not be scared. It is in the deepest storms that you become resilient. So what if it doesn't work out? You will not be haunted by the "what-if's". All you have to do is do your part as a wife. You know this things. I need not elaborate. The basis of marriage has been inculcated in our brains since we were children. But live your life. Follow your dreams. You are still going to be you. But now, you have an ally. You have someone to depend on in times of obstacles. Enjoy life, it comes but once. Do not be overwhelmed by the thought of marriage. I was, but I just reminded myself that I'd rather have this moment of bliss than a lifetime with nothing.
Whatever your reasons are, marry for the right reason. Marry for love. Marry a man you know and feel will love you on your worse as he does on your best. Marry a man who will support you in your endeavors. Marry a man who will be a good father to your children.
Marriage is an institution. Wedding is a celebration. Two different things, one foundation. Love. One powerful medium, God.
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